Tuesday, March 1, 2011

This Wedding is Not a Game

But sometimes it certainly feels like a competition, doesn't it?

For the past 13 months, I've floated along on a cloud of naivety.  "Bridal La La Land," if you will.  I called vendors well in advance, they were available. La la problem.  

But last week I came face to face with the reality that I am not the only person getting married on my wedding day. Let me rephrase that: I am sharing my wedding day with three other brides  and we've all blocked rooms at the same hotel.

I would be lying to you if I didn't admit that a knot formed in my stomach the moment the I got the news.  Every time I tried to talk, my throat tightened and I could hear the pitch of my voice rising with every attempt I made to speak.  The feeling of panic began to sink in.  

There are other brides looking for the same vendors, on the same day, at the same time as me?!  Oh no.  This can't happen.

Suddenly, I feel like there's a race to get everything booked before someone else books my vendors.  It's already started, a couple vendors I've called have been booked by other brides.  Meanwhile, my inner competitor has just laced up and is stretching.  


Who knew wedding planning was a competitive sport?  Did/do you feel competitive with other brides when it comes to booking your vendors?


  1. Luckily we've had a very long engagement, so all of my vendors were booked well ahead of time. I did meet someone recently, though, who told me that she had wanted my venue and my date. I booked in August 2009, she inquired in March 2010.

  2. Oh my gosh, yes! Even with a 26 months engagement!

    We booked our venue about 23 months out, and spoke with our now-DJ a few weeks after that. He said he would hold our date for a month so we could get paperwork signed and a deposit sent; no problem.. we figured we had time. He called us up about two weeks later, saying that another couple wanted to hire him for the same. day.

    Um, what?? Two years out and I already have competition? It's crazy out there!!